How to set effective boundaries for teenagers

So, why do we need to set boundaries for our teenagers? Well, at this age, independence and the need to show the world that they can do things is quite intense. Pay close attention to your teen, and help them stay safe and healthy. Here’s how to set boundaries for your teen and still remain close:

Tips on setting boundaries

- Boundaries work better when they are agreed upon by both parties and discussed mutually.

- When teenagers understand the reason for setting boundaries they are likely to cooperate.

- Sometimes giving them the liberty to take responsibility for their behaviour is important.

- As they grow older, they are more likely to learn things from their peers and the media. It is important to let them know what is good for them and why.

- Do not always speak. Listen to them and make them the part of the conversation. It is then that they feel you are willing to compromise, and you see that the conversation is more effective.

What is the issue?

Now that you have an idea of setting boundaries, it would help if you were able to determine the issues your teen faces. Some of these issues typically entail…

- Communication

- Discipline

- Safety

- Conflict

- Addictions

- Developing independence

To resolve these issues, you need to set boundaries for your teen. Teenagers need clear guidelines at this age, remember they are dealing with a lot of physiological and mental changes.

How to set boundaries?

While you set boundaries for your teens, you must follow these steps…

- Clearly explain the specific boundary

- State what is not permitted

- Mention the expectations

- Also, mention the consequences of not adhering to the boundaries

What are the boundaries?

Once you have decided to set boundaries with your teen, you must explain what the boundaries are…

- When does he need to return home? Specify the time

- How can he help with the household chores? Make a schedule

- How much time for TV? Decide on an hour or two after homework

- How much time for homework? Discus it together

Setting boundaries for a teenager is a very difficult task, but with a little bit of effort, you should be able to do it together!

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